Here’s how to tackle the tricky situation of asking for money as a wedding gift without offending anyone...

1.       Ask nicely – Its tradition in many cultures including Greek and Italian wedding, but some guest here in the UK, particularly older ones may still feel giving cash to newlyweds a bit inappropriate. But you can approach the subject tactfully . Try a humorous poem in your invite to make the request light hearted.

2.       Club together – It’s important to make your guest feel that they are contributing to something specific, so you could explain that you’d really appreciate everyone clubbing together to pay for an amazing experience to mark your special day, why not set up a wish list where guest can contribute towards a romantic meal for two or a helicopter ride.

3.       Make a wish – a growing trend for the US is a wishing well where guests can ‘post’ cards containing cash or cheques on your wedding day.

4.       Foot the bill – asking close family and friends to contribute towards the cost of the wedding instead of a gift is a good way to make them feel involved. You could divide up sections of your big day, sush as, flowers, cake, car and ask for relatives and friends to chip in  for whichever  part they like. That way people know that the money is going towards the special day and not just a free bar.

5.       Token Gesture – If your really not comfortable with the whole cash question butreally haven’t decided what presents you would like, why not set up a gift list in your favourite store but specify that guests should by vouchers. Most store that offer a gift service or voucher system will help you set it up and provide discreet cards to pop in your invitations explaining what your guests need to do.